Girlfriend Has White Boy Fever

I received an email today from a good friend. She told me she's dating a white boy. This is completely shocking to me because my friend was never one to even look at a white boy. She told me she's never been attracted to them. In fact, she told me she would NEVER date a guy unless he was black.

My friend and I are black females; she's from Atlanta, Georgia, and I'm a Southern Californian. I told her that if I had that attitude, I'd never know what it was like to date because, well, black men in California don't seem to be attracted to black women.

I was stubborn in college. I only dated black back then. That means, I never dated. Well, actually I went out with two black men in those four years. Let's do a quick equation:

2 black guys x 2 dates a piece = 4 dates

Yip, I went out on four dates in the four years I was in college. My friend's reaction, "Wow, that's it?"

She, having been brought up in Georgia, never had a black man drought. Lucky her. The only draw back was the ratio of men to women. There were many more women than there were men, so she said women were always the aggressive.

Anyways, let me get back to the point of this post. My friend is dating a white guy! I don't believe it! I just don't believe it! I'm going to need pictures because I don't believe anything unless I can see it with my own eyes. I wonder what changed her mind. I wonder....

A New Boyfriend for NiceButtBunny?

Most of the guys I've dated in the last six months I met online at match.com. I never thought I would go out with someone I met on the internet, but I have three times.

In fact, my longest relationship ever was with a guy I met on the internet. Two whole months! And nothing to show for it, not even bitterness. I'm really proud of myself for going that long before I kicking a guy to the curb because I usually do in two weeks.

If you want to try online dating, here's a few tips:

1. Come up with an eye catching name. I chose NiceButtBunny. There's a lot of men out there that like ass and bunnies are cute and soft. So you get my point right?

2. Upload a really nice picture of yourself. Don't post pics of yourself posing with attractive people of the opposite sex. Those viewing your profile will think of them as competition, so crop out the eye candy. Remember, YOU should be the focal point of the picture. I posted a picture of myself posing with two really attractive males but I cropped them out. However, proximity to beauty is a good thing and it will radiate through the picture. So while I advise you to avoid posting pics of yourself posing with attractive people, do it as long as you crop them out . Here's a response from a guy that viewed my profile:

"Shavonne, you're funny. You've helped me to realize that another
key to a nice picture is the subliminal messages that surround it. For some
reason I was convinced that you have a nice body but when I took another look at
your pix there is nothing there to support that. That's when I realized how
slick you are! After reading your profile I saw that I had been influenced by
the BUTT in your screen name and in your best feature. You brainwashed me!"

3. Make sure your Intro is a positive one. Don't talk about your past relationships, because most likely they were shitty. Nobody wants to read about the ex.

4. Last, if you do decide to meet, make sure it's very public. I usually go for coffee shops like Starbucks.

I hope this advice works for you. Happy searching for your perfect match.